GOODREADS BOOK BLURB:
On social media, we shape our personal narratives.
At parties, we talk over one another. So do our politicians.
We’re not listening.
And no one is listening to us.
Despite living in a world where technology allows constant digital communication and opportunities to connect, it seems no one is really listening or even knows how. And it’s making us lonelier, more isolated, and less tolerant than ever before. A listener by trade, New York Times contributor Kate Murphy wanted to know how we got here.
In this always illuminating and often humorous deep dive, Murphy explains why we’re not listening, what it’s doing to us, and how we can reverse the trend. She makes accessible the psychology, neuroscience, and sociology of listening while also introducing us to some of the best listeners out there (including a CIA agent, focus group moderator, bartender, radio producer, and top furniture salesman).
I found this to be an insightful read. I have always struggled to be a good listener for many reasons (mainly anxiety) and it was nice to be reassured that not only is this common, but it is possible to overcome.
I enjoyed the vast array of different sources the author pulled from both academic and professional fields. It kept it interesting and applicable to many people. There are anecdotes, theories, interviews, and, most importantly, tips and examples to help you become a better and more attentive listener.
I found this book to be full of both theory and application. It flows well from chapter to chapter without becoming too repetitive or pedantic and never feels condescending. I think it would be helpful for anyone who is conscientious about their friendships and relationships and their interactions in the world. I found it timely and applicable on many levels in various interactions and had to stop myself from highlighting and taking notes on almost every page. I think if this were mandatory reading in high school, we would soon find ourselves in a more pleasant and understanding world.